July 30, 2013

35 and Fashion

This past Saturday I put on some sequins and went to my good friend's birthday party.  My professional photog (ha!) was off that night so you get these lovely iPhone photos. :)

I'm kind of terrible at taking selfies...it's hard for me to get the angle right!  I've had this sequin Vince tank dress for a couple of years now and am always happy to have an occasion to wear it.  I sometimes think that at my age I shouldn't be wearing all over sequins, BUT, it's such a simple design and the sequins are not super shiny so I think it totally works.  Some delicate earrings and a couple of cute bangles and that was all I needed.  So, I think I got this one right.

This dress got me thinking though, at 35, can I still wear anything I want?  Should I??  

Since I am a woman of a certain age, I think about this a lot.  I feel sometimes like I'm in this in-between phase, like I still find plenty of "young" clothing items appealing (short skirt, bright print, tight dress), but at the same time I don't want to look like I'm desperately clinging to my youth.  I also don't want to look "old," but it's difficult for me to find the balance.  Like, often.  I've had many days where I've put on twelve different tops with three different bottoms and I just can't seem to make the right connection.  Will it look slutty if I wear this short skirt with heels?  Do I look like I'm trying too hard with this low cut top?  Should I really be wearing crazy print...anything? 

I suppose I just don't have my style completely figured out yet.  It's only in the last few years that I've really tried to find a place for my fashion to exist.  I've made some regrettable purchases (the red eyelet dress with puffy sleeves I bought and never took the tags off of comes to mind), but I've also made some great ones (DVF black dress, yes!).  I'm still trying to get the hang of how to wear my youthful things and not look...teenagery.  For instance, I bought a blue-green silk strapless romper thing.  It's gorgeous, it's short, and it looked great on, but I just could not bring myself to wear my platform ankle wrap wedges with it.  I really wanted to!  But when I looked at myself in the mirror, I was like, "what are you trying to prove?"  I ended up wearing some old Old Navy flat sandals.  Then I thought, "meh,"  but then at least I felt less like I was trying to impress someone (Other women? Boys? I don't know.).  Maybe I fear being judged.  But why do I care what others think of my sartorial choices? 

I shouldn't, I know.  But I guess it's a girl thing (or maybe it's a ME thing)...I want to be perceived appropriately.  I don't want someone looking at me and my outfit and thinking some incorrect thought about what kind of person I might be.  There I go again, trying to control things I couldn't possibly control.  Is it a lack of confidence?  Is my self worth too tied up in how I look?  Too often, we women get the message that unless we are conventionally pretty, thin, and fashionable, we aren't worthy of love or acceptance.  We must have soft hair, white teeth, cellulite free thighs, expensive shoes, and long, full eyelashes.  We've been conditioned this way from an early age most of us, and it's hard to break free of.  My light has been on inside recently, and I'm exploring these issues within myself much more.  Change is difficult, but it is necessary.  I really want to be able to wear what I think is cute and I want to feel good in it, no matter what anyone else might think.  I think maybe the way to do that is to, well...just DO it.

xoxo :)

July 26, 2013

Hot Town...Summer in the City

Hot town, summer in the city
Back of my neck getting burnt and gritty
Been down, isn't it a pity
Doesn't seem to be a shadow in the city

All around, people looking half dead
Walking on the sidewalk, hotter than a match head

But at night it's a different world
Go out and find a girl
Come-on come-on and dance all night
Despite the heat it'll be alright

And babe, don't you know it's a pity
That the days can't be like the nights
In the summer, in the city
In the summer, in the city

Last night was one of those awesome summer nights.  You know, outside in the park, nice breeze, bug free, music, food, beer, and friends.  How it should be!  The event was called Decks in the Park, and it was a blast.

It was still pretty warm, so I didn't do much fashion wise...just a breezy lace top I scored at The Limited on mega sale (air flow!), a high pony (hair off neck!), and short shorts. :)

Dinner was had picnic style on a blanket.  I tried to make this big juicy turkey avocado and swiss sandwich look appetizing here, but trust me...it was tasty!  And not one ant or fly bothered me while I was eating.  I love that.

The Dallas skyline at dusk is quite nice to look at.  Especially from Klyde Warren Park.  The park was built on top of a freeway, uniting downtown with the edge of uptown.  The people who came up with this idea and designed the park are super smart and creative because it's beautiful.  This was my first time to hang out at Klyde Warren and I'm kind of kicking myself for waiting so long to check it out...the park opened last October!  Lesson learned.

How fantastic is this stage?!  It's so shiny and bright I just love it.  The tunes for the evening were provided by some talented local djs: A-1, Feezy, Jeff Mitchell, DVDJ Washington, Paradise and Waric Cameron.  There were some 80s classics, some downtempo lounge sounds and many happy beats.  Tons of people were dancing (and sweating) up a storm!  Lots of folks brought their kids and dogs so there were little beings running all around.  Everyone was happy and having a great time!  That's the best part.  :)

xoxo :)

July 23, 2013

On the Run

I haven't always been the active type.  I did sports in school, softball, cheer, swimming, but there have absolutely been times in my life that I have been quite inactive.  For the last couple of years though, I have found much joy in being active and, in particular, running.  

I've had starts and stops, knee injuries, and shin splints.  I've had periods where I'd run 3 times a week, and then I'd go 3 months without running at all.  Since the beginning of this year though, I've had a light on.  I've felt more committed to me, to my body, and to my personal health and fitness.  It hasn't always been easy though.

It's July...this is Texas...it's HOT.  That means the only time I can manage running without risking heat stroke is in the early morning.  I'm not that much of a morning person.  I like to sleep.  Who doesn't?!  But if I'm not out before 7am, it ain't gonna happen.  Then I have to run on the treadmill at the gym...boring!

So today, I decided that I was going to remember to pay attention to
how great I always feel after a morning run.  It's like my whole day is better.  And I love that this, my favorite place to run, is in my backyard:

White Rock Lake: beautiful, peaceful, a treasure to the city of Dallas.  I moved to my apartment here four years ago and I don't think I'd ever want to live anywhere else.  Running here is fantastic.  Especially in the mornings when the bugs aren't awake yet!  It's an easy 5K from my apartment gate down to the park entrance and back and there are ALWAYS other bicyclists, joggers, walkers, and guys doing their morning fishing, so I always feel safe when I'm running by myself.

My trusty running shoes...because they are awesome.  Brooks!

I still kind of hate getting up so early in the morning...I am a die-hard sleepyhead.  But I try to remember what I have just outside my door and how great it is.  I mean, how can you resist when you have this to run next to?

xoxo :)

July 22, 2013

Friday Night at Home

Pjs.  Couch.  Snacks.  Netflix. 

This is how I've been arranging my Friday nights as of late.  This past weekend we decided to stay in on Friday and enjoy a relaxing evening at the apartment.  I made a ranch dip with pita chips, had coconut pineapple soda, and thoroughly enjoyed watching the Netflix original series Orange is the New Black with a makeup free face. 

I must say, the first episode was definitely great! Funny and weird and a little sad...I like it.

Another thing I like, pjs.  I've kind of a thing for pjs, especially in the summer when a little shorts/tank set is all you need.  These have been my favorites lately:

I scooped up these cute cherry print pjs from PJ Couture last summer.  They are ahhh-mazingly soft and comfy. And did I mention cute?  I know...they're a little young/cutesie for a 35 year old lady, but I kinda don't care.  They're fun and bright and they make me happy. 

And how about that awesome piece of art?  My boyfriend made it.  Yes, he is quite talented!

Here are some more cute summer pjs. :)

In Bloom Crochet Lace Pajamas

Juicy Couture Romper Pjs

Kensie Counting Clouds Sleep Romper

July 17, 2013

The LBD...for the Office!

My office dress code is pretty relaxed.  We're even allowed to wear jeans on Fridays, but sometimes I spy denim covered legs walking around the office on a random Tuesday.  As for me, however, I like to keep my work looks more professional (except for Fridays!).  I absolutely love this LBD from The Limited's Travel Collection. It's soft and comfy with a conservative cut that is still cute.

I love how they did the gathered fabric detail at the bodice and waist.  It makes this little shift dress a lot more interesting.  An LBD gives you many options as far as accessories go, but today I decided to keep it simple and classy with my fave Enzo Angiolini peep toe pumps, a classic Bulova watch, and a layered chain necklace with pretty green beads.  And, bonus, this dress is lined and machine washable! 

Unfortunately, The Limited's Travel Collection pieces are sold out, but I've found you some similar office LBD options.  You're welcome. :)

July 13, 2013

Cheers to the Weekend

Lately I have been the type to head straight home after the office on Friday afternoon.  I usually want nothing more than to get home, get comfy, and decompress.  But there's also something very soothing about getting together with some of my best girls for a little happy hour.  Refreshing cocktails, yummy snacks, and a little camaraderie made for the perfect end to my work day.

The new-ish spot we went to, Lark on the Park.  It's adjacent to a great big downtown Dallas deck park that opened late last year.  It was our first time here!

Puffed 'Curry Pillow' pastries and marinated olives and nuts...so tasty!

Some really neat chalk illustrations inside the bar.  Kind of makes me want to paint one of my walls with chalkboard paint and put my artist boyfriend to work!

Happy friends and a fine looking sunset...I'd say Friday was a smashing success.